Tantrum vs Meltdown

Today my mom asked me how I knew Heidi wasn’t just having a 4 year old tantrum.

Then I started thinking and thought I’d share in our house how we know the difference. I think actions are determined on how to handle each one differently so it’s important to understand there is in fact a difference.

A tantrum is simply a way for child to express their anger, sadness, frustration. It’s easily recovered from. And crying ceases when given the object of their desire.

You might see

Whining

Crying

Hitting

But it’s usually diminished after a few minutes.

A meltdown is a tantrum of epic proportions. It can go on for up to an hour.

It’s irrational.

There could be hitting.

Harming themselves.

Or completely shutting down and just sobbing.

A meltdown goes on for a while and leaves the child emotional and distraught for most the day.

I think it’s important to understand there is in fact a difference in both.

A tantrum may also lead to a meltdown if it’s one of those days.

The sensory systems of our children are heightened. They feel and see differently than a typical mind.

I’m not saying the response of a meltdown should be tolerated. I’m suggesting that there is a way to teach and grow alongside your children by understanding it a little more.

Just some thoughts from one Autism mama.

Author: Danielle

Danielle is a modern day homesteader. She moved from the suburbs of California to the High Desert with her husband and two kids to live a more balanced life. An experienced Autism mom, using animals and nature to work through the struggles of raising two kids on the spectrum. Danielle is writing her first book. A longtime freelancer, and blogger. Daughter of the King.

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