Tranquil

I walked into McDonald’s today to let my kids play indoors because of the unbearable smoke from the California fires.

I could feel my anxiety and agitation growing as more people lined up behind me.  The cashier possibly was new, or just hated her job.  Not sure.

But her rudeness immediately started to agitate me.

By the time I had gotten our drink and french fries and sat down with the kids.  I could feel my anxiety taking over my entire being.  It was too loud.  There was someone who stunk.  Then there was the fact that a grown man was lurking in the slide.

I was appalled that not one parent had demanded he get out.  So I mentally prepared myself and went up to the play structure and demanded he get out.

He did.  And the alcohol he had consumed was very apparent.

By the time that fiasco was done I could feel my anxiety slowly creeping.  But having kids I don’t want them to see my own anxieties, I don’t want my personal feelings to reflect on them.

Thank God I always have my Young Living Tranquil roll on in my bag for occasions like this.  I marked one X with the oil on my left wrist, and another X on my right wrist.  And one more down the base of my neck.  When I’m really anxious I will count to ten while touching my thumb to each of my fingers until that suffocating feel dissipates.

I’m not sure why I have anxiety.  I’d guess it’s due to my genetics.  Most everyone in my family struggles with anxiety or depression.  But I also think this world can be to fast paced for people like me.  I’m an old soul, that prefers the company of good people as opposed to a bunch of strangers.  And I need a lot of alone time.  And sometimes that’s hard with two young kids at home.

Once I had ditched my prescribed anti-anxiety/anti-depressant last year I had to find a way to help when my anxiety starts spiraling out of control.

Once I started using Young Living Essential Oils I felt a positive change in my entire body.  Everyday I drink my water with lemon oil.

Diffuse different oils throughout the house.  If I’m feeling unmotivated and depressed I tend to diffuse Tangerine.  It’s citrus scent gives me the kick in my ass I need to get moving.

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When I get that suffocating, overwhelmed anxious feel I have a few different oils I use, but tend to consistently use Tranquil by Young Living.

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I used to think this essential oil potion was a trend, that there couldn’t possibly be any healing in it.  But going back to Biblical times essential oils were used even then.

So here are just a few tips and tricks that I use on a daily basis to maintain a healthy mental state.

  • Exercise, it’s a must.  Sometimes I feel to tired to workout, but I force myself to.  This is where Ningxia comes in to my rescue.  It gives me a clean energy that doesn’t affect my anxiety like caffeine does.
  • Getting out and about.
  • Setting a goal once a week to try something new, even if it’s as simple as pumping my own gas at a new gas station.
  • Drinking lots of water
  • NO caffeine, like ever.
  • Eating a healthy diet, no fast food or processed junk.
  • Prayer
  • Physical labor around the homestead.
  • Using Young Living Essential Oils by using them topically, internally, and diffusing them throughout the house.

These are some of the things I do daily.  They don’t always work and sometimes I slip up and drink caffeine and find myself spiraling into anxiety quickly.

How do you combat anxiety and depression?

 

 

How to naturally increase Iron absorption with skillet cooking

Symptoms of low Iron

  1. Unusual Tiredness
  2. Paleness
  3. Shortness of Breath
  4. Headache and Dizziness
  5. Heart Palpatations
  6. Dry & Damaged hair& skin
  7. Restless Legs (which can result in poor sleep)
  8. Brittle or spoon shaped fingernails
  9. More frequent infections
  10. Feeling anxious

These are just a few symptoms associated with low iron levels.

When EBE was about 2 years old we started consistently talking to the doctors about his inability to sleep.  He was always tired yet never slept.  We referred to a psychiatrist who talked about a lot of nonsense and pushed prescription medication.  Needless to say I got up and left in the middle of his prescription medication rant.

I did what mama’s do best and started researching and demanding blood work.

He did in fact have low iron levels which made sense considering I could barely get him to eat anything but a milk and graham cracker diet.

Fast forward to today.  I cook almost everything I can in a cast iron skillet.

Did you know a cast iron skillet has the ability to naturally increase your iron?

Scrambling eggs in a new iron skillet increased the iron content from 1.5 mg to almost 5mg

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I will warn you that children under the age of three can in fact get to much iron, resulting in iron toxicity so I’d encourage you to speak with your Doctor or do you research beforehand.

Plus I think everything tastes better in the cast iron skillet.

 

The Potholes- Hidden gem in Northern California

I contemplated blogging about The Potholes in Lake Tahoe, California because it was told to me by word of mouth.  At one time it used to be a little secret gem tucked away in Northern California.

Once we arrived we realized its a site well traveled.  But not too traveled.  People are respectful and take their trash and belongings out with them.

It’s located in Northern California, and a quick google search will actually give you directions.  If google knows about it, it’s not so hidden anymore.

Anyways.  It’s a quick half mile hike in if I’d have to guess.  I’m not the greatest with estimating distance, but I survived it carrying my four year old.

Surrounded by beautiful landscape and enormous boulders for the kids to climb on.

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I even found two enormous heart rocks!

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We found a quiet little place to set up for the day.  Where the kids enjoyed putting their toes in and leaping across the rocks.

The water was cold and refreshing.  Clear and beautiful.  We did happen to come across a large water snake that scared my husband enough to pack up and head out.  I’m kidding, but it did make us a little hesitant to put our feet in and by that time the kids were done anyways.

If you are looking for a serene and peaceful getaway and happen up near Kit Carson Pass I’d encourage you to take a chance and explore the potholes.  It’s a beautiful place in the middle of the mountains of California.

Oh and no dogs allowed off leash, although I saw some rule breakers while we were there.

A perfect way to spend an afternoon with my favorite people.

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To my beautiful blue-eyed baby girl

As I was sifting through old blog posts I’ve written.  I came across this post from two years ago the night before my daughter received a hefty Autism diagnosis.  It brought me to tears.

I remember writing this.  I remember all the unknowns we faced as a family.

I remember feeling completely overwhelmed by all the assessment forms and endless doctors appointments we faced as a family.  And I remember this gut feeling that they were just wrong in the way they viewed Autism.  Special needs or not she was and still is my baby and I will encourage her to succeed in life no matter what hiccups we may face along the way.

But as I read through it.  I couldn’t help but be overwhelmed with gratitude for the journey that God has put us on.  All the growth I’ve made as a Mama.  All the growth my beautiful blue-eyed baby girl has made.

If you are facing an impending diagnosis, or maybe you’ve just received a diagnosis.  Or maybe it’s been a day full of Autism quirks and you are just overwhelmed.  Things will look up, everything will be okay.  Don’t let the Doctors convince you that your child is less.  They are not.  You’ve been given a different lens to view life.

I’ve always hated using the term special needs.  I feel like somehow that makes Autism seem like something negative, and I’ve always viewed my kids as earth angels.  Sent here to teach me and this world a different way to view the world.

It’s a blessing.

To my beautiful, blue-eyed, baby girl.

I loved you the moment I found out I was pregnant with you. You were the most beautiful surprise and you continue to amaze me and surprise me with each passing day.

Tomorrow is a big day for you baby girl, but remember, tomorrow does not define you baby girl.

God has a plan for you baby girl. And we’re in this together.

“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart.” Jeremiah 1:5

God has a special plan for you that only He can see right now.

I’m scared for tomorrow, I’m scared for the unknown, I’m scared to think that you may struggle in your life. But I know why he chose you baby girl, you are strong, and kind, and beautiful. I may think you are fearless at times, but you are brave. You are so brave. I know why he chose me too. Because as much as I find myself in tears lately sweet girl, I know that this uncomfortable feeling, this ache that takes over my entire being is because I’m growing. I’m growing right alongside you sweet girl. I’m growing into the mommy you need me to be.

These are growing pains. We are in this together. We will grow together.

I don’t think for a minute this is going to be easy. It’s going to be hard at times. It’s going to bring me to my knees sometimes. But it’s going to be beautiful. It’s going to be absolutely beautiful to watch you progress, to receive the care you need, to be the person God wants you to be.

I don’t know what tomorrow brings for you, for me as your mom, or for our family, but I do know that we love you to the moon and back. That whatever comes of your assessment tomorrow, or your hearing test in a few weeks you are exactly as God wants you to be.


Tomorrow will not define you. Tomorrow is a merely a compass to guide you into becoming the person God meant you to be.
I love you always.

Mama

Autism and Essential Oils

Let’s first chat about Autism.

Maybe  you are familiar.  Maybe like myself you have one or two sensory kids in your household.

Maybe you are waiting on a diagnosis (I know the waiting can be awful)

Maybe you’ve had a child on the spectrum for years.

There is a misconception about Autism.  I know for me when I tell people my kids are on the spectrum I usually get some asinine comment.

You would never guess my kids have autism upon meeting them or seeing them.

Autism is a blanket diagnosis now, but they fall into the “higher functioning category”

Miss H actually has a severe autism diagnosis, but there are so many different things that played into that diagnosis.  She’s actually outgrown most all of the behaviors we saw when she was younger.  Now she just has different behaviors.

That’s not to downplay the time and hard work we have all put in as a family.

To an outsider you would see two typical kids ages 4 and 5.

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But they have their struggles.  We have our days with repetitive behavior, meltdowns, and zoning out.

Since my son was born he was a difficult baby.  He never slept (still has his nights)  He had so many issues with constipation.  At one point I took him to the doctor for 21 days of constipation.

That’s when I started researching diet, exercise, and oils.

It wasn’t until much later that I really started using oils consistently with the kids.

We went through phases where the kids would just eat horribly.  Goldfish, graham crackers.  Milk.  But having kids a year apart, being an exhausted mom I was just doing the best I knew how.

Once we really stepped back and researched the effects of diet and exercise everything changed for us.

We changed their diet.  We have always limited screen time.  And we started encouraging them to workout with us.  Use their obsessive behaviors for overall health.

Now oils.  I know some people think its hocus pocus.

I know others that truly believe in their ability to aid with behaviors associated with Autism.  I’m a believer.  I’d much rather try an oil potion than medication, but that’s just me.

Oils will never cure a child of Autism.  But they do have the ability to give an overly anxious child feelings of calm and peace.  They have the ability to increase mental clarity and focus.

They have a way of balancing out emotions.

If you know much about autism you know that often times studies discuss the effects of gut health.

I cannot stress enough how important gut health is speaking for my own kids.

Once we seemed to find a balance using diet, essential oils, and exercise we have noticed an amazing transformation in our kids.

Less meltdowns, more focus, less anxiety, and to be honest they love joining in with the mixing of potions.

If I had to choose three oils that we use consistently in our house they would be:

  • Lavender
  • TummyGize
  • Peppermint

If you have a sensory kid you probably know the struggle with going to the bathroom.  I rub TummyGize on their stomachs and feet as needed.

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Lavender is amazing.  I usually put it in our homemade playdough and pull that out after an overstimulating outing to help calm their senses.

Peppermint diluted with fractionated coconut oil is the perfect way to bring down a fever naturally.

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Those are only a few that I use consistently around here.  I love everything about Young Living.  I love that there is a way for me to help the kids feel regulated.  We don’t use labels in our house.  To be honest they don’t even know what Autism is yet.

I will spend my mama life helping them through their struggles but providing them with all different tools to manage any struggles.

Autism is truly life through a different lens.

Thanks for reading!

Danielle

 

Let’s talk anxiety, depression, and tummy issues

Today I wanted to introduce myself.  Talk tummy issues.  Anxiety, depression, so let’s just dive in.

I have always been what I considered healthy.  I’ve lifted weights for years.  Practice yoga more days than not.  But I’ve always suffered from intermittent anxiety and depression. I also suffer from an autoimmune disorder that can wreak havoc on my body at any give moment.   Recently I’ve noticed my stomach always feels in some sort of knot.  My kids are not the best sleepers.  They have some different sensory challenges, and I feel like more mornings than not I wake up with just an overall feeling of exhaustion.  It’s hard to be motivated throughout the day when you’re struggling with inner health.

I felt like I needed a change.  I didn’t want to stumble through life always making excuses for the issues my body feels daily.

So I decided to push myself out of my comfort zone.

Really give Young Living Essential Oils a chance.  See what their about.  I’ve always been skeptical of people selling things online.  But having recently just read

Dreamland: The True Tale of America’s Opiate Epidemic

Book by Sam Quinones
I decided all the little things I’ve been feeling may actually have some truth to it.
When my youngest was diagnosed with Autism I was going through so much.  I felt alone, I felt like the unknown of her future was just too much for me to handle at that current moment.  I felt depressed.  I was exhausted.  My kids never slept in this phase.  SO I found myself seeking out my doctor where I found how simple it was to get a antidepressant/anti anxiety medication.
I remember the first day I took that pill how awful I felt.  I mean really awful.  I was sick to my stomach.  Falling asleep on the couch.  Things that were just not like me.  I felt like it had cut the edge of all the emotions I’d been facing and when I felt that I was ready to get off of it a year later I realized I had easily become physically addicted.  The withdrawls were painful.  The headache was unbearable.  So a few days later I started taking it again.
I really prayed about it.  And was so angry at myself for falling into the prescription drug trap so easily prescribed by doctors.
A month after my first attempt I decided to wean off my prescription.  You see nothing in my life had really changed.  My daughter of course still had autism.  I was still not getting any sleep, but I realized how dangerous it was getting for me to continue taking my prescribed antidepressant.  I didn’t want to walk through life numb.  And the withdrawls I faced were really unnerving.  SO I weaned off my pills for about two weeks and have never looked back.
I find that I still struggle from time to time, but that’s life right.  Nothing is perfect.  Moments are overwhelming.  God didn’t intend for us to be medicated through life.
So long story short!  I found myself truly giving oils a chance.  I fell in love with Young Living Essential Oils.  As cheesy as I feel sharing them with people I want them to see that there’s an alternative way to feeling healthy.
I started adding a drop or two of Lemon oil to my water first thing in the morning.  I noticed within 15 minutes of drinking it that knot in my stomach was gone.  So one glass turned to 3 a day.
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I noticed mental clarity.  I noticed that it encouraged me to make healthier choices throughout the day.
I cut out caffeine.  And preworkout.
Preworkout was probably the most difficult for me.  I’ve used it for years and years to get through my workouts.
So I decided to step out of my comfort zone one more time and try out Young Living Ningxia Red.  Once in the morning before my workout and once in the evening.
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I noticed an increase in energy but not a sloppy full feeling like a cup of coffee would give me.  Or a jittery tweaker high preworkout tends to give.  I won’t lie I did enjoy that extreme surge of energy.  But to be honest I don’t know half of the ingredients in any given preworkout I’ve purchased.
But with Ningxia Red by Young Living I noticed an increase in clean energy.
These are two of my favorite items for myself by Young Living.
If you are tired of feeling off.  Maybe you too struggle with stomach issues send me an email.
I’d be happy to share what I’ve learned.
americanhomesteadco@gmail.com
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Danielle