To my beautiful blue-eyed baby girl

As I was sifting through old blog posts I’ve written.  I came across this post from two years ago the night before my daughter received a hefty Autism diagnosis.  It brought me to tears.

I remember writing this.  I remember all the unknowns we faced as a family.

I remember feeling completely overwhelmed by all the assessment forms and endless doctors appointments we faced as a family.  And I remember this gut feeling that they were just wrong in the way they viewed Autism.  Special needs or not she was and still is my baby and I will encourage her to succeed in life no matter what hiccups we may face along the way.

But as I read through it.  I couldn’t help but be overwhelmed with gratitude for the journey that God has put us on.  All the growth I’ve made as a Mama.  All the growth my beautiful blue-eyed baby girl has made.

If you are facing an impending diagnosis, or maybe you’ve just received a diagnosis.  Or maybe it’s been a day full of Autism quirks and you are just overwhelmed.  Things will look up, everything will be okay.  Don’t let the Doctors convince you that your child is less.  They are not.  You’ve been given a different lens to view life.

I’ve always hated using the term special needs.  I feel like somehow that makes Autism seem like something negative, and I’ve always viewed my kids as earth angels.  Sent here to teach me and this world a different way to view the world.

It’s a blessing.

To my beautiful, blue-eyed, baby girl.

I loved you the moment I found out I was pregnant with you. You were the most beautiful surprise and you continue to amaze me and surprise me with each passing day.

Tomorrow is a big day for you baby girl, but remember, tomorrow does not define you baby girl.

God has a plan for you baby girl. And we’re in this together.

“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart.” Jeremiah 1:5

God has a special plan for you that only He can see right now.

I’m scared for tomorrow, I’m scared for the unknown, I’m scared to think that you may struggle in your life. But I know why he chose you baby girl, you are strong, and kind, and beautiful. I may think you are fearless at times, but you are brave. You are so brave. I know why he chose me too. Because as much as I find myself in tears lately sweet girl, I know that this uncomfortable feeling, this ache that takes over my entire being is because I’m growing. I’m growing right alongside you sweet girl. I’m growing into the mommy you need me to be.

These are growing pains. We are in this together. We will grow together.

I don’t think for a minute this is going to be easy. It’s going to be hard at times. It’s going to bring me to my knees sometimes. But it’s going to be beautiful. It’s going to be absolutely beautiful to watch you progress, to receive the care you need, to be the person God wants you to be.

I don’t know what tomorrow brings for you, for me as your mom, or for our family, but I do know that we love you to the moon and back. That whatever comes of your assessment tomorrow, or your hearing test in a few weeks you are exactly as God wants you to be.


Tomorrow will not define you. Tomorrow is a merely a compass to guide you into becoming the person God meant you to be.
I love you always.

Mama

Autism and Essential Oils

Let’s first chat about Autism.

Maybe  you are familiar.  Maybe like myself you have one or two sensory kids in your household.

Maybe you are waiting on a diagnosis (I know the waiting can be awful)

Maybe you’ve had a child on the spectrum for years.

There is a misconception about Autism.  I know for me when I tell people my kids are on the spectrum I usually get some asinine comment.

You would never guess my kids have autism upon meeting them or seeing them.

Autism is a blanket diagnosis now, but they fall into the “higher functioning category”

Miss H actually has a severe autism diagnosis, but there are so many different things that played into that diagnosis.  She’s actually outgrown most all of the behaviors we saw when she was younger.  Now she just has different behaviors.

That’s not to downplay the time and hard work we have all put in as a family.

To an outsider you would see two typical kids ages 4 and 5.

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But they have their struggles.  We have our days with repetitive behavior, meltdowns, and zoning out.

Since my son was born he was a difficult baby.  He never slept (still has his nights)  He had so many issues with constipation.  At one point I took him to the doctor for 21 days of constipation.

That’s when I started researching diet, exercise, and oils.

It wasn’t until much later that I really started using oils consistently with the kids.

We went through phases where the kids would just eat horribly.  Goldfish, graham crackers.  Milk.  But having kids a year apart, being an exhausted mom I was just doing the best I knew how.

Once we really stepped back and researched the effects of diet and exercise everything changed for us.

We changed their diet.  We have always limited screen time.  And we started encouraging them to workout with us.  Use their obsessive behaviors for overall health.

Now oils.  I know some people think its hocus pocus.

I know others that truly believe in their ability to aid with behaviors associated with Autism.  I’m a believer.  I’d much rather try an oil potion than medication, but that’s just me.

Oils will never cure a child of Autism.  But they do have the ability to give an overly anxious child feelings of calm and peace.  They have the ability to increase mental clarity and focus.

They have a way of balancing out emotions.

If you know much about autism you know that often times studies discuss the effects of gut health.

I cannot stress enough how important gut health is speaking for my own kids.

Once we seemed to find a balance using diet, essential oils, and exercise we have noticed an amazing transformation in our kids.

Less meltdowns, more focus, less anxiety, and to be honest they love joining in with the mixing of potions.

If I had to choose three oils that we use consistently in our house they would be:

  • Lavender
  • TummyGize
  • Peppermint

If you have a sensory kid you probably know the struggle with going to the bathroom.  I rub TummyGize on their stomachs and feet as needed.

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Lavender is amazing.  I usually put it in our homemade playdough and pull that out after an overstimulating outing to help calm their senses.

Peppermint diluted with fractionated coconut oil is the perfect way to bring down a fever naturally.

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Those are only a few that I use consistently around here.  I love everything about Young Living.  I love that there is a way for me to help the kids feel regulated.  We don’t use labels in our house.  To be honest they don’t even know what Autism is yet.

I will spend my mama life helping them through their struggles but providing them with all different tools to manage any struggles.

Autism is truly life through a different lens.

Thanks for reading!

Danielle