The effects of anxiety on our bodies

No one likes to talk about poop or stomach issues.

But the reality is people poop. And some people have some struggles. Just saying.

Anxiety, stress, depression can wreak havoc on the body.

I’ll be completely transparent when I say raising two kids on the spectrum has caused me a lot of tummy issues.

Sleepless nights, meltdowns, repetitive noise behaviors seem to cripple my stomach.

Some days I feel as if I’m holding my breath all day. Not quite sure how to grasp a hold on the days challenges and moods.

This feeling of holding my breath and internally stifling the anxiety my body is under has destroyed my body internally.

I’m not blaming my kids for their behaviors. Or Autism for that matter.

But it is hard. Being a mama of kids on the spectrum. It’s a hard balance to reach. Sleepless nights don’t mean I get a break for the day. Out of control meltdowns add more anxiety. I do my very best to keep my own struggles to myself so not to reflect back on the kids.

But internally it has wreaked havoc on me.

I’ve spent multiple hours in the emergency room for unbearable stomach pain. A compliment of my own anxiety from the struggles I face raising two kids on the spectrum.

This isn’t a blame game. More of a confession of a mama that struggles daily with trying to be a good mama to her kids.

Moms make sacrifices. And I think moms with kids with challenges make more sacrifices.

Then there’s the fact that it’s hard to find support and people who truly understand the struggles because let’s be real each person with autism has their own unique struggles and strengths. So it’s hard to find someone who can relate to what you experience. Because of course everyone is different.

I’ve found myself struggling with my own health in all this autism business. And sometimes I realize my own struggles tend to have some spectrumy behaviors as well.

I read recently about a capsule with peppermint oil, and ginger can help ease the pain and discomfort associated with IBS.

So this week I’ve mixed up some potions in capsules and will try them for a few weeks before I can support or discredit this potion.

Praying it works. Praying I can learn to condition my own response to the days that can seem so out of control.

I truly hate anxiety. I hate that is has such a crippling effect on my body. And I hate that I haven’t been able to find a way to truly cope other than stifling my own struggles.

Do you find your anxiety leads to tummy issues? And how do you combat it?

From Slug to Motivated -A moms simple tips to get moving and motivated for the day

Some days I wake up so tired and have a hard time getting moving.  This isn’t just I didn’t sleep well tired, it’s I’m so life tired that the task of even getting up to brush my teeth seems impossible.

But then the mom guilt kicks in and I get up.  Stumbling my way through the next 3 to 4 hours hoping something I eat or drink will get me moving.

But awhile back I woke up sick of this feeling of constant exhaustion.

So I decided to take note.  And make some changes to the start of my day.  After all the only person that can truly change this is me.  Don’t look to your husband to make you happy or just your kids.  I wonder if you jotted down what makes you happy did you include yourself?  I know it didn’t even cross my mind.

I gave myself 1 minute to write down things that have been stressing me out.

  • money
  • student loans
  • keeping the house clean
  • procrastinating on shit I don’t want to do
  • Needing a new car
  • missing out on my purpose in life even though I don’t know what the hell it is supposed to be.

Then I prayed about each one.  And continued to throughout the day.  It’s a way for me to let go and just let someone else take my worries for a while.

Then I jotted down the things that make me happy

  • the kids, and MJE (as long as we aren’t stressed to the max over bullet number 1)
  • my family
  • the farm of animals we have
  • building wooden things
  • being outside
  • and my girlfriends.  Without them I’d be lonely and I enjoy our daily chatter, MJE wouldn’t care to here about the latest and greatest on the group text chat.  We may only get together once a year or never at all.  Group text-the modern day penpal. But I love having a little circle that gets lifes ups and downs with you.

Anyways, I prayed over all these things that make me happy in my life.

Then I made myself move.  But I started with a quick little jot of things that need to be done and things I would like to accomplish for the day.

Then I mixed up the following potion in the diffuser:

5 drops Peppermint

5 drops tangerine

3 drops valor

3 drops frankincense

I take a powergize supplement twice a day from Young Living.  SO far I’m really liking it.  One odd thing I feel like I get from it is a heat to my body but it gets me moving so no complaints.

Then I spend 30 minutes to an hour cleaning and tidying.  (I give myself a little room to cut it short or prolong the cleaning because I have some OCD tendencies)

In my schedule I include an entire hour and a half to do what I want in the afternoon after school.  The kids are to the age now where I can stick them in front of tv or give them some books so that I can have an hour and a half to recharge.  (It won’t kill them to be in their rooms quietly for an hour and a half something I have to keep reminding myself of)

I include yoga on my schedule..  Daily.  Our bedroom has become my yoga sanctuary.

I started small on the first day from slug to motivated.  And with each passing day I’ve felt more relaxed, more motivated.  It’s not an overnight cure, but a daily challenge.  Not to mention my house is much cleaner with my designated cleaning in the mornings.  Less clutter, more cleanliness instantly helps ease my anxiety.

I think challenging ourselves daily is really the only way we can grow.

I think moms get lost sometimes.  I think we lose ourselves in pleasing our families catering to demands from all different angles.

I know I’ve forgotten about myself lately.

My list will be different from yours of course, but if you are feeling sluggish, hard to get motivated maybe you will find comfort in not being alone.  Maybe a few things I try daily will help you combat the morning slug!

Thanks for reading!